I firmly believe hate is a sign of weakness, envy and fear. Haters hate on you because youâ€™re doing what they cannot, something they wish they had or they’ve attempted to accomplish in the past but failed doing so.
Let’s go back two weeks and bring up where a goalkeeper academy student parent took me to the side at an academy session informing me that she witnessed a coach from one of the local youth soccer clubs tell her son to -Avoid attending the ZEE goalkeeper academy as very soon this will become a club policy-. I was in no way surprised as other parents in the past have also witnessed such “Bla Bla Bla” talk from the same group of coaches.
I hear it all the time, well through other people, because the haters never come to bark at you face. Actually that isn’t true, one individual did confront me in person but failed miserably, he left that confrontation with his tail between his legs and I’m ready to bet a months income that he will never try anything like that again! I admit it, I enjoy direct face-to-face confrontation and my haters know that, they know I like the scene it creates and they know that I’m very good at creating the perfect scene. That’s why they spew hate at a secure distance.
There is one way to avoid having haters: “Sit on the sidelines, do nothing, donâ€™t set goals, be an average coach, depend on others to place you in the ring” and trust me… no one will judge or hate you.
Haters have been a natural part of the growth of my business. When youâ€™re new there will be some critics, when youâ€™ve set the grounds there will be haters, and when youâ€™re the best at what you do they will turn into admirers, but they’ll still hate you on the outside. The question is: Are you willing to be attacked and criticized as a person to grow your brand? Yes its worth every inch!
FACT: When you move past others in your same branch of business on the social ladder, theyâ€™ll feel that urgent need to pull you down. Progress on the social ladder is almost always the result of progress in other areas of your life.
I’ve noticed that they’ll constantly bring you up in a conversation for things you did or ways you thought in the past. Their hope is put you back where you were so that the balance between you and them is restored.
To your advantage, hate blinds them, it makes them act irrationally, so theyâ€™re not a threat in any way. Haters are limited in their path and really canâ€™t think long-term. They donâ€™t see a bigger picture, they can’t see 360 or in 3D.
16 months ago “with a broken heart” I abandoned ship on a project that I knew was going to fail, after that I stepped into the water I managed to turn things around, as soon as I took that move some very interesting things happen. Some people were upset and some even angry that I didnâ€™t drown. Theyâ€™ll hate that I acquired a better path. I were supposed to be nothing. Instead, I created something that went well beyond the boarder lines of the county.
Haters are at a level below me, hence the hate. They believe they are trapped there (and so they are). Theyâ€™re not enemies simply because enemies are dangerous and can bring you down. Haters actually do the opposite. They validate you in front of everyone, people aren’t stupid, they follow up on what haters say.
Keep in mind that whatever it is they try to do to harm you is a validation that they sense you are going to be successful, that you’re hitting the nail right on. Plus, no one is successful nowadays without the local haters. So, their activities are really a badge of honor, especially as time goes on.
Haters need a lot of support to sustain the justification for their behavior, a huge lack of character, and just the really sad fact that they have engaged in hating that will end up in a lost battle. I’ve witnessed that they will find out a way to gather as many people to their side as possible. But those people are in the same boat and feeling bad about someone else’s success. They may even like the fact that they can support the hating without actually getting their own hands dirty, they just spread the word, throw the stone and hide the hand.
In time, they may discover that they were deceived or were wrong, but you have to let them play this silly game. This is how some people feel that they have to be in order to make their way in their small and unhappy world, especially when it comes to money. Itâ€™s hard, but thatâ€™s where theyâ€™re at.
I have brought goalkeeper training fees down to a minimum, no other goalkeeper academy that I know of charges less per student and this has pissed off a lot of greedy coaches. I dug in their pockets and by doing so pushed them out of that ring where they were munching big time!
At the same time we’ve given access to parents and goalkeepers to the best training in the country, with a massive inventory of pro-equipment and pro-licensed coaches with big backgrounds. The pro-goalkeeper gloves are given to our academy students at a hugely reduced price, 9 of our students come from very low income families and do not pay. This is how I created “most but not all” of my haters, through these actions.
It must really suck to be a hater. I have pity, but I try to show no kindness to these little men. Remember to fight for what you believe in, not against people who are failing in hurting you and remember always to thank God every day that you are not like them and on their muddy path.
At the end of the day haters make you into the leading person you’ve always wanted to be. So from the bottom of my heart…
…THANK YOU HATERS!